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Original language: German
Exit often Gechäfte with clothes that you did not want to leave bad product tighten because you do not dare to assert themselves, are afraid to comment on private or business they want, drag often be the shorter or "ripped off", you are afraid to meet with disapproval, if you prevail?
Then you know what it is, can not act confident and the eternal loser, and second to be. The psychologist Rolf Merkle shows you in this book what are the causes of shyness and an unstable appearance, as you can get strong without a guilty conscience and uninhibited in their own right, as you can handle criticism and rejection, how to fend off false claims and legitimate claims to represent self-assured.
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- people that can not occur even sure, the eternal loser. They leave a store with clothes that they do not do can turn on a bad product, because they did not dare to complain, are afraid to express their wishes personally and professionally, and who are therefore very often the shorter or "being ripped off." The fear of hurting the feelings of others or to be rejected prevents them from exercising their rights to machen.de psychotherapist Rolf Merkle shows you in this book - what are the causes of shyness and an unstable appearance, - as you can without bad conscience and make you strong without inhibitions in their own right, can - as you can handle criticism and rejection - how to fend off false claims and legitimate claims represent themselves safely, - the specific problems women haben.Mit confidence using the specific exercises in this self-assertiveness training, you learn to act confident and strengthen your personality.
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From wallflower to selbsicheren I - the recipe for success
The gravelly long way from shy to self-conscious and self-confidence man is described minutely. Merkle shows the causes of lack of self-consciousness, which are partly already in childhood, more clearly than ever on. Examples in which one recognizes the frame, the bare facts effective. With simple, yet obvious methods and exercises the reader scans approached more and more self-recognition and management of the lack of self-consciousness. It takes a longer time reading (recommended by the author) and an intense working through the book. Merkle are the tasks that hard work makes the reader! But it's worth it !!!!!!! If much and welcome to the self-conscious! He speaks from personal experience
As a rule, you as a layman so often get the impression that psychotherapists have to talk so easily - they have even studied their craft, should in principle have no problem to assert themselves against their fellow human beings and are not intended to hurt so badly because they would have to be because of work so very confident. All the better, I found it, taught by Mr. Merkle one better. He begins this guide, as he tells of himself from time when he was a lack of self-confidence. It's nice when you have the feeling at the outset to have a fellow sufferers on the side, and anyone who buys this book, to be familiar to some of Mr. Merkle's mentioned drawbacks of low self-confidence. Be it the Ausweischen for others on the road, the eternal yes-saying, the other-all-do-do-right, etc. The book contains as it were, a theoretical and a practical part. In theory, we learn why people with low self-esteem fears, inhibitions, and feel the need to be accepted by others so badly. All of it is quite plausible, it is believed, for example, can not imagine how many errors the system will help - too much authority of teachers, training errors, which I had not even considered errors, and to other stimuli in everyday life, symbolizing constantly that one should sacrifice themselves for others and that self praise, for example. That part was incredibly interesting for me to read, so I recognized many of these errors at me for the first time, starting with education.
The practical section's exercises, which are all based more or less, wants to convey to each other and the book is: One should learn slowly and not think of becoming an overnight Prince Charming or the Super emancipated woman. It starts with the right handshake, look at the way the people in the eye, talking, etc. and also includes self-conscious dialogue examples that occur so often in fact in reality.
interesting thing about this book is also of note. In contrast to his colleague and occasional co-author Doris Wolf, the gentler of the two, which is always positive, Mr. Merkle stated very straight, peppered, impetuous, and sometimes totehrlich very bold, which also makes a little smile. One can not imagine that the Lord has truly once possessed such a bad self-confidence, and again in a way that makes courage.
am However, I also disagree with all the proposed dialogue. For example, at the point where the author explains how to cancel a promised relocation help, I am a little scared - which ends in my opinion just the opposite and I think that his friends will go sooner. Although I have enforced my rights if, and consideration and sensitivity are even more to life to mean yes and no, I am myself so into the background.
Condition for the success of self-treatment as usual is the active work. The book just to read only is not enough. You should follow the tips, successes and failures and compare their progress and record it. Muster some courage and, above all, because the book itself does not create the inner superheroes.
good book
In just two evenings I had the book "Do not you like everything" by Rolf Merkle read. Helpful for me was the instructions for practicing the situations in which I was not selected so far: make write-confident, according to pronounce and go through the situation mentally relaxed - just as I wish for the future. This works fine. On the road I had, like Mr. Merkle, the problem that I'm almost gone "zigzag" to always go to other pedestrians from the road. I have consistently implemented in the last 2 days, the proposals of the book - many people now go to the side. One chapter describes Mr. Merkle, the method
"RECORD", ie the permanent repetition of his desire increases the chances of fulfillment. This is generally true and it works. However, I personally apply to any records that meet my fellow human beings so on the head. Each set can be formulated in positive or negative, without changing the content itself. I've been using consistently positive formulation also the best results working (as a communication trainer ...).
Helped me in this way the little book "Be happy in life" by Dale Carnegie.
Nevertheless, everyone who is annoyed by his good nature again and again, the book by Rolf Merkle buy and read at least once (preferably more often and at intervals)! 
Released: 2010-09-09 
Binding: Hardcover 
Binding: Hardcover 506 pages 
Binding: Paperback 
Binding: Paperback 158 pages 
Binding: Paperback 
